How to Find True Love

Part I: Admitting Hard Truths

I was in a relationship for 10 years straight – with about 10 different people. I was what they call a ‘serial monogamist’ – a person who moves from one romantic relationship to another very quickly, spending as little time single as possible. Looking back, it wasn’t that I hated the experience of singleness, but rather, I hated the experience of solitude. I didn’t want to sit with myself. I didn’t want to process my emotions. I sure as hell didn’t want to admit any hard truths. So instead, I ran. I ran so quickly into the arms of anyone who promised to catch me. More often than not, I ran into the arms of the wrong people – the people who couldn’t catch me.

I think we all have a proclivity to run away from the truth. To hide from the things that hurt, to escape from the things that ache. And while I found my personal refuge in the hands of other humans, safe havens can take on many different names and shapes. Some may choose to drown themselves in their career, while others choose to drown themselves in the bottle. Some seek out meaningless sex, fleeting connections, a revolving door of John and Jane Does – while others opt for isolation. But regardless of the fixation, we are all reflecting the same sentiment…

I am unwilling to sit with myself. I am unwilling to come face-to-face with my truth.

But what we often don’t realize is…